Monday, April 27, 2009

Trucking along

Trying to get things done that I've been needing to do so today I actually cleaned the house (yikes!), organised my fiber basket, got my pediatric nurse school application off, sent off my knit blankie and crocheted hats to the crisis pregnancy center, and made a few appointments. Pretty productive day. I feel good about what I accomplished. Yeah me! :)

I work tomorrow so I needed to get all that taken care of.

Things are up and down with kids. Is that to be expected? I told dh that I felt we had failed in raising our children. Is it too late to ... I was going to say change them; But is that what we're supposed to do? Change our kids to make them fit into the mold? Just how far can you go in "making" them be polite, respectful, mild-mannered, responsible, independant, and happy versus letting them be who they are? Alex isn't exactly polite or mild-mannered and Remi isn't what I'd call responsible or independant. But then again, I tend to (tend to??? always) fly off the handle, say mean things, think mean thoughts...
Ho hum...

God, my blog is getting boring and depressing. (probably always has been :P)

OK on a positive note! So there!
I finished the baby blanket and the hats for the crisis pregnancy center. The blue hat in there is mom's contribution. Thanks mom :) !


Kendra said...

I still haven't e-mailed. Sorry! Maybe I'll just post a blog. I think you and I are the only ones on here anymore anyway.

I wish I had some wonderful words of wisdom about the kids. But, I knew what to say that would mean that I know what I'm doing. And I don't. I have the same frustrations that you do with Benjamin and Tyler.

I think there is a balance between letting them be who they are, but still correcting them and guiding them in the right direction. I have the exact same concerns with each of my boys.

I truly believe that if we continue to guide them in the right direction, they will eventually get there. It often feels like I'm wasting my time. But, if I am patient and persistent (not my strongest qualities, mind you), I will see glimpses of hope. They will get it as they mature. I am beginning to see that with Tyler and Benjamin.

I also have found that I am much harder on my kids than other people are. Ask people outside of your family what they think. That is a better indicator. People who have spent time with you kids. You will probably find they are very complimentary of the kids.

caracolina said...

I just caught up with blog and am sorry that your struggling with family life still. Not that I have much advice to give you since I'm not even a mother (on purpose: I suspected all along that I would not be a natural). However, I think you might be expecting a lot from your kids and they, being kids, are often distracted and don't remember what you told them to do a few minutes ago. Heck, my mom was on me constantly because I was such a slob (still am). But was/am I really all bad? I don't think so, I may still be a slob but there's more to me than my bad sides. And your kids have great parts, too. Please don't beat yourself up over things that they'll grow out of, eventually. If they are 30 years old and still living with you (and going on your nerves) then you could consider something was wrong.

PS. Good luck with the snake. Sorry, but that just made me giggle. What are they going to come up with next? I wish you could just laugh this stuff off. Is it still alive? What is its name? How about a photo?